Hmm…let’s think about this for a minute. Is this a good idea?
Yeah, I know that they’re probably going to do this as a gift to you or give you the “friends and family discount”, but think about the immediate and long-term effects of this decision. Your good friend/relative probably has existing relationships with the other people in your wedding party. They know that it doesn’t take much to get on Auntie’s bad side, because she holds a grudge forever!! Auntie wants to do what Auntie wants to do! Then when your friend/relative has to give Auntie a loving nudge during the wedding, THEY’RE OFFICIALLY ON HER BLACK LIST! Not only will there be tension for the remainder of the wedding day, but think of how uncomfortable this will be at the 4th of July picnic, housewarming party, and baby shower. Your friend/relative probably won’t be able to enjoy themselves because they’ll be dodging Auntie from now on.
Okay, I know that scenario is extreme, but it is true. Your wedding party is more likely to be on their best behavior with someone they don’t know very well. It’s more beneficial to have a more neutral individual to coordinate your day, because there will only be preferential treatment for the bride and groom. What you say goes. Consider hiring a professional coordinator who is loving yet firm.
Your friend/relative should be able to relax and celebrate with you! The day should be as memorable to them as it is to you. The best way you can show them how honored you are that they’re at your wedding is by letting them relax and take in the beauty and excitement of the day.